Backing Yourself

Here’s what I’ve been sitting with this week: if nothing changes, nothing changes.

Obvious, really.

 Yet how often do we circle back into the very patterns that keep us small?

How many times do we find ourselves in spaces where we’ve shrunk, surrounded by people who are comfortable staying confined to the ordinary?

I’ve caught myself doing it recently. Slipping back into old ways of thinking.

Playing it safe. Being ok with accepting ordinary and mediocrity.

Except I’m not.

I am not here for ordinary. And neither are you.

In the small things, the conversations we choose, the rooms we walk into, the boundaries we set, we can back ourselves.

We can decide that ordinary isn’t enough. Extraordinary doesn’t have to mean flashy or perfect. Sometimes extraordinary is simply the courage to stop dimming, stop accepting what’s not working and start daring to make a different choice.

To truly explore the art of what’s possible. To lean fully into shaping spaces and experiences for ourselves and others that are extraordinary.

I work with women who know this truth deep down. Women who’ve fought their way to the table, only to realise it was the wrong table all along. Women who’ve given everything to careers that left them exhausted, overlooked, or excluded. Women who dared to want both a career and a full life, and don’t want to apologise for wanting both those things anymore.

These women are done with shrinking. They’re ready to reclaim their joy, their freedom, and their wild, unapologetic selves. They’re ready to rewrite their stories and birth the next chapter with courage and clarity.

And if you’re reading this, maybe that’s you too.

Backing yourself means saying yes to possibility even when it scares you. It means refusing to be boxed in by other people’s rules, timelines, or expectations.

It means remembering that time is ticking for us all, and you get to choose what you do with it.

This is a taste of what’s to come. The next chapter of my work is all about reclamation: guiding women to rise from burnout and disappointment to rebirth careers and lives that feel like freedom.

Because nothing changes until you decide it will.

And the moment you back yourself, everything starts to shift.

With love,
Tamsyn x